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6 Signs You’re Ready to Date Again

You took a break from dating because you weren’t in the right headspace after a messy break-up or toxic rollercoaster of situationships, or just simply being stuck on an ex. Maybe your boundaries, confidence or mental health needed prioritizing first. But now that you did, you’re feeling wary of dipping your toes in the dating pool again. You may be asking yourself, what now? How do you know you’re ready to date again?

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Friends with Benefits: Why It Exploits You & Benefits Him

The “friends with benefits” terminology has been popularized over the past 2 decades through pop culture and romcoms that only romanticized the idea and made it more socially acceptable for the developing generation at the time. The idea that it is not only acceptable, but normal to dissociate love from lust, affection from desire, the heart from the body. The idea that, an agreement where two people only satiate their lust in each other, and nothing else, can only be mutually beneficial. This belief has become so engrained that, years later, it’s almost controversial for a woman to come outright and exclaim that the FWB situationship is actually detrimental to a woman’s wellbeing.

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High Value Dating: Do’s and Don’ts

Do make your boundaries clear. Throughout your dates, be communicative to your partner about how things are going to work with you. If you don’t do 50/50, say so. If you are very busy and only have time a few hours a week, say so. If anything physical is off the table, say so. Whatever is your high standard, make it clear and don’t worry about coming off as too strong or high-maintenance. A gentleman, a man of high value in fact appreciates a strong-minded woman who knows what she wants, and doesn’t settle for less. He will admire your clarity and honesty. The men that mind your boundaries and standards don’t matter, and those that matter won’t mind.

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High Value: Misconceptions, What It Is and What It Isn’t

The High Value concept is not an a-ha! sticky note to pull out as dating strategies that have an eskewed perception of what a healthy relationship or dating should be like. Other people don’t get to decide that being a career woman, or being highly intelligent or knowledgeable, is “low value” of you – that’s their eskewed perception of what a woman should be like. And although that is generally an unhealthy mindset (because in a proper healthy relationship, both partners support each other’s growth, whether personal or professional), it is their subjective belief, one which you don’t need to argue, agree, or invest any energy in. Let them believe what they wish. You already know your value, darlings, and it’s not dependent on other people’s contorted beliefs. It’s only dependent on your beliefs on your own value. Know the difference.

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29 Green Flags of The High Value Man (HVM)

Have you ever noticed how prevalent the actions and behaviors associated with low value are in the media? In books, tv shows? It is no wonder then, why that is what has become familiar to so many people across the world. And what is familiar, is associated with safe and attractive to your subconscious. What is familiar, you unconsciously replicate in your own life – life imitates art! So, by becoming conscious of and unfamiliarizing the low value traits, then familiarizing yourself with high value ones (both in your relationships and in your personal development), you are actively re-wiring yourself to register only high value traits as attractive and acceptable.