One big obstacle in the dating process that holds us from finding a healthy, fulfilling relationship is our limited beliefs and childhood traumas. One prominent way this manifests is through our anxious, avoidant or disorganized attachment style. We all just want love, right? But our ubringing irrevocably marks how we relate to the world, both romantically and platonically.
I thought I’d share my latest habits so that it may hopefully inspire others as well. Starting with the Scorpio Full Moon from 15/05/2022, I decided to challenge myself every day with new habits and routines that propell me in the direction of my goals, but also improve my wellbeing and mental health (we’re all about the holistic glow up here, ladies).
In today’s world of oversharing every single detail of one’s life, the secret to stand out as a lady of class and self-possession, to protect your privacy, as well as to maintain your allure of exclusivity and mystery, is this: keep your private business your own.
What is the most common mistake in leveling up financially? You can earn 6 figures or inherit a great wealth, but what happens with that wealth once it’s in your hands, if you still have a scarcity mindset? In order to holistically level up your finances and not fall right back, your mindset must follow along!
One mistake I see a lot of people doing after reaching a certain treshold of financial abundance, is going all in. Not just splurging a little, but indulging all the luxuries they dreamt of having, and inevitably ending up living beyond their means, thus perpetuating the cycle of…
The “friends with benefits” terminology has been popularized over the past 2 decades through pop culture and romcoms that only romanticized the idea and made it more socially acceptable for the developing generation at the time. The idea that it is not only acceptable, but normal to dissociate love from lust, affection from desire, the heart from the body. The idea that, an agreement where two people only satiate their lust in each other, and nothing else, can only be mutually beneficial. This belief has become so engrained that, years later, it’s almost controversial for a woman to come outright and exclaim that the FWB situationship is actually detrimental to a woman’s wellbeing.
Throughout the level up and hypergamy community, I’ve noticed a certain well-meaning but questionable mindset that seems prevalent. The idea of marrying rich as an end goal, and investing all your efforts into making that happen – because once you do, it’ll fix everything for you. But I don’t agree with the mindset of relying on hypergamy as an end goal, without focus on much else… and here’s why. It contains a huge flaw.
Unfortunately, in today’s society being single is akin to a sentence. Social norms have made us feel like our relationship status is directly correlated with our worth, our status in society, and consequently our inherent value. And it certainly does not help that this false and toxic belief is further perpetuated by the media which regurgitates the same cliches about singlehood or single women (cue scenes with women binging on icecream tubs, all weepy-eyed with a bird’s nest of a hair while stalking their exes, or the trademark one night stand scenes with the eskewed belief that “it’s just…
True growth, when done right, includes discomfort. To admit your vices, your shortcomings. Holding yourself accountable. Choosing what is uncomfortable short-term, but which will be beneficial long-term. Stepping out of your comfort zone. Applying for a new job, changing your look, improving your mindset drastically. All of these things may feel challenging at first, simply because they’re unfamiliar. Push through anyway…
When I first started my blog, I knew that I wanted to eventually tackle hard-hitting questions and themes that really delve into the vulnerabilities of our human nature: the light, the darkness, and all the grey areas inbetween. Because we hold not just one phase of the moon in our multiplicity, we carry all of them within us, which is what gives us depth and a true radiance when we honor all facets of our identity…
One of these grey areas is the fine line between being a good friend, and being a good friend to yourself by protecting your mental health…
Nowadays, I find myself glued to my devices, because the magical world of my books is just one click away. In the morning when I sip on my tea, in the afternoon after I’m done with work, at night before sleep, I keep adding ideas, whirling up new scenes to add to my story, adding a few more lines to the latest chapter . . . In other words, I’m finally writing with the efficiency I’ve always wanted, instead of getting stuck on writer’s block for weeks or months on end.
I never thought I’d say this, but it’s now a challenge to not binge-write every day — whereas previously I didn’t know how to push myself to write more often. I went from 20% productivity to, dare I say, 100%.