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Relationships

What does a healthy relationship look like?

Disagreements may still appear even in healthy relationships, and it’s ok, as communication is essentual for a healthy dynamic. However, his approach to disagreements is a secure one: each will share their perspective.

And if feelings were hurt or mistakes were made, he takes accountability for his side, and makes genuine apologies followed by reparations and direct actions (ie. “I’m sorry I did x, I didn’t mean to hurt you. I will be/do y in the future”, and then does as he promised).

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Lumen's Diary

Lumen’s Diary: Darling, It Gets Better

I hope my story inspires you to not give up on yourself. Wherever you may be in life, whatever phase or age, it’s always worth it to start loving yourself, to start believing in yourself. I’m not saying it’s easy or fast. After all, it took me 10 years to get here. But you can make this shift in mindset, energy and confidence in 1 year if you really want, and you’re brave enough to choose yourself and decide that you deserve better. You can learn from my mistakes and make the change now, instead of later.

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Relationships

6 Signs You’re Ready to Date Again

You took a break from dating because you weren’t in the right headspace after a messy break-up or toxic rollercoaster of situationships, or just simply being stuck on an ex. Maybe your boundaries, confidence or mental health needed prioritizing first. But now that you did, you’re feeling wary of dipping your toes in the dating pool again. You may be asking yourself, what now? How do you know you’re ready to date again?

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Essays

How to go from Anxious/Avoidant to Secure Attachment

One big obstacle in the dating process that holds us from finding a healthy, fulfilling relationship is our limited beliefs and childhood traumas. One prominent way this manifests is through our anxious, avoidant or disorganized attachment style. We all just want love, right? But our ubringing irrevocably marks how we relate to the world, both romantically and platonically.

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Relationships

Friends with Benefits: Why It Exploits You & Benefits Him

The “friends with benefits” terminology has been popularized over the past 2 decades through pop culture and romcoms that only romanticized the idea and made it more socially acceptable for the developing generation at the time. The idea that it is not only acceptable, but normal to dissociate love from lust, affection from desire, the heart from the body. The idea that, an agreement where two people only satiate their lust in each other, and nothing else, can only be mutually beneficial. This belief has become so engrained that, years later, it’s almost controversial for a woman to come outright and exclaim that the FWB situationship is actually detrimental to a woman’s wellbeing.

Glow Up

Relying on Hypergamy is Not a Smart Strategy. Here’s Why

Throughout the level up and hypergamy community, I’ve noticed a certain well-meaning but questionable mindset that seems prevalent. The idea of marrying rich as an end goal, and investing all your efforts into making that happen – because once you do, it’ll fix everything for you. But I don’t agree with the mindset of relying on hypergamy as an end goal, without focus on much else… and here’s why. It contains a huge flaw.

Relationships

Rewrite the Toxic Narrative of Being Single

Unfortunately, in today’s society being single is akin to a sentence. Social norms have made us feel like our relationship status is directly correlated with our worth, our status in society, and consequently our inherent value. And it certainly does not help that this false and toxic belief is further perpetuated by the media which regurgitates the same cliches about singlehood or single women (cue scenes with women binging on icecream tubs, all weepy-eyed with a bird’s nest of a hair while stalking their exes, or the trademark one night stand scenes with the eskewed belief that “it’s just…

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Essays

The Fragile Balance Between Friendship and Mental Health

When I first started my blog, I knew that I wanted to eventually tackle hard-hitting questions and themes that really delve into the vulnerabilities of our human nature: the light, the darkness, and all the grey areas inbetween. Because we hold not just one phase of the moon in our multiplicity, we carry all of them within us, which is what gives us depth and a true radiance when we honor all facets of our identity…

One of these grey areas is the fine line between being a good friend, and being a good friend to yourself by protecting your mental health…

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Relationships

High Value Dating: Do’s and Don’ts

Do make your boundaries clear. Throughout your dates, be communicative to your partner about how things are going to work with you. If you don’t do 50/50, say so. If you are very busy and only have time a few hours a week, say so. If anything physical is off the table, say so. Whatever is your high standard, make it clear and don’t worry about coming off as too strong or high-maintenance. A gentleman, a man of high value in fact appreciates a strong-minded woman who knows what she wants, and doesn’t settle for less. He will admire your clarity and honesty. The men that mind your boundaries and standards don’t matter, and those that matter won’t mind.

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Glow Up

4 Things Every Woman Should Know About Love

Someone depressed or heartbroken is not going to be magically “fixed” by your love. Does it help? Absolutely. It supports their healing, their recovery, offers them a pillar of support. But that patching up of their heart, and healing from their traumas, is something only they can do, as it is their core responsibility. You can’t make that choice, or that change, in their place.

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