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Wellness & Mental Health

How To Start Your Healing Era

Have you ever wondered how to start your healing era? I think everyone should have one, every now and then. You can’t girlboss your way to your dreams without stopping to smell the flowers, otherwise you’ll just end up burnt out.

We’re taught to hustle and grind, to chase our dreams, to keep running on the hamster wheel of the corporate world, or some other arbitrary goal. As valid as those goals are, life takes its toll and it’s important to take inventory of all that we have achieved, lick our wounds, and offer ourselves the grace of gathering our strength again.

Much like nature, we undergo seasons of growth, of prosperity, of loss, and of hibernation. Many underestimate the importance of this hibernation, this cocoon phase. But it is, in fact, where the magical transformation happens!

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Lumen's Diary

Lumen’s Diary: Darling, It Gets Better

I hope my story inspires you to not give up on yourself. Wherever you may be in life, whatever phase or age, it’s always worth it to start loving yourself, to start believing in yourself. I’m not saying it’s easy or fast. After all, it took me 10 years to get here. But you can make this shift in mindset, energy and confidence in 1 year if you really want, and you’re brave enough to choose yourself and decide that you deserve better. You can learn from my mistakes and make the change now, instead of later.

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Dark Feminine

Dark Feminine Energy: Avoid This Common Trap

Dark femininity is an incredibly empowering tool, but falling into this common trap leads a lot of girls and women astray.. into playing games and chasing men, instead of leading them into their own power.

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Essays

How to go from Anxious/Avoidant to Secure Attachment

One big obstacle in the dating process that holds us from finding a healthy, fulfilling relationship is our limited beliefs and childhood traumas. One prominent way this manifests is through our anxious, avoidant or disorganized attachment style. We all just want love, right? But our ubringing irrevocably marks how we relate to the world, both romantically and platonically.

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Glow Up

That Girl: New Healthy Habits I’ve Adopted

I thought I’d share my latest habits so that it may hopefully inspire others as well. Starting with the Scorpio Full Moon from 15/05/2022, I decided to challenge myself every day with new habits and routines that propell me in the direction of my goals, but also improve my wellbeing and mental health (we’re all about the holistic glow up here, ladies).

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Relationships

Friends with Benefits: Why It Exploits You & Benefits Him

The “friends with benefits” terminology has been popularized over the past 2 decades through pop culture and romcoms that only romanticized the idea and made it more socially acceptable for the developing generation at the time. The idea that it is not only acceptable, but normal to dissociate love from lust, affection from desire, the heart from the body. The idea that, an agreement where two people only satiate their lust in each other, and nothing else, can only be mutually beneficial. This belief has become so engrained that, years later, it’s almost controversial for a woman to come outright and exclaim that the FWB situationship is actually detrimental to a woman’s wellbeing.

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Glow Up

23 Glow Up Tips To Keep You On Track

True growth, when done right, includes discomfort. To admit your vices, your shortcomings. Holding yourself accountable. Choosing what is uncomfortable short-term, but which will be beneficial long-term. Stepping out of your comfort zone. Applying for a new job, changing your look, improving your mindset drastically. All of these things may feel challenging at first, simply because they’re unfamiliar. Push through anyway…

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Essays

The Fragile Balance Between Friendship and Mental Health

When I first started my blog, I knew that I wanted to eventually tackle hard-hitting questions and themes that really delve into the vulnerabilities of our human nature: the light, the darkness, and all the grey areas inbetween. Because we hold not just one phase of the moon in our multiplicity, we carry all of them within us, which is what gives us depth and a true radiance when we honor all facets of our identity…

One of these grey areas is the fine line between being a good friend, and being a good friend to yourself by protecting your mental health…

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Self Development

You Deserve The Gift Of Happiness

Most people, my past self included, think that happiness is a destination. One you reach after you tick off a long, challenging list of tasks that validate your worth to this exclusive club called happiness. The reason why this perception is faulty – and ultimately, it does the opposite of its purpose, by letting happiness slip through your fingers as an elusive idea – is because it’s not a destination to begin with. It’s not a reward if you’ve been good enough by doing this and that. Chasing that eternally elusive…

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Glow Up

4 Things Every Woman Should Know About Love

Someone depressed or heartbroken is not going to be magically “fixed” by your love. Does it help? Absolutely. It supports their healing, their recovery, offers them a pillar of support. But that patching up of their heart, and healing from their traumas, is something only they can do, as it is their core responsibility. You can’t make that choice, or that change, in their place.

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